These days it seems divorce is not too far fetched like it
was 20 or 30 years ago. I can remember in the days of our parents, it was almost
as if the word ‘divorce’ only existed in the dictionary. Our parents never
believed in divorce (not like issues that would cause divorce never came up
between them) but one way or the other, the never allowed that final blow of
divorce to take place.
Considering the issues about these two supposed love
birds, I guess it’s just an unfortunate case of: “The Initial-mind-set problem”
between couples.
For EVERY relationship to thrive and grow, and become exemplary,
the foundation MUST be SOLID. The way a relationship kicks off, determines how
far that relationship can (or will) go.
For instance:
If a relationship begins with sex (yes! that’s wrong) it
sure won’t get too far; coz the desire which brought it into existence will fizzle
away like the whisking trail of the night fire fly.
If a relationship
begins with a (false) satisfaction of elevation in social strata (like when a
person thinks that by dating (or marrying) someone of great repute he or she has great repute
too) – that relationship will run out of gas, when the other person begins to
feel “I’m beginning to get far bigger than you”.
If one person in
the relationship is psychologically insecure (like when the person “thinks”
that there’s a ticking time bomb buried somewhere in the relationship waiting
to explode) this will make the partner do crazy things either to beat down the ‘fear’
of the ticking “time bomb”, or to just create a false "anti-bomb" solution!
What does this mean?
When
a partner is
insecure (worst in the early stages of a new marriage); he or she will
try to
balance this emotional burden most times by acting or behaving in such a
way to
show his or her insecurity to the other partner (a kind of early signs
of "I'm getting it up to here!"); which if the partner doesn’t “read”
this behavior on time, such acts (by the estranged partner) can be
pushed to
the extreme to cause (most times) unfaithfulness, cheating, which is
adultery.
It’s simple, when
your partner is “afraid” or suspicious in some way, of some sort, or some thing; Sometimes
their counter-reactions may prove fatal. **So here’s a tip, try not to cause
fears or suspicion in the mind (or heart) or imagination of your partner*
Strive to be crystal clear like diamond.
Young couples
should know that marriage at the early stage is TOUGH! At the early stage of
marriage, you may have a whole lot of things to discover in your spouse: Her
eating habits, his spending habits, her snoring habits, his drinking habits
etc. Everything will show forth in the early part of the marriage, why? Because
this is no more that person that tried to appear COOL in all his ways (or her
ways) but here is the real person, the real Lady you married, the REAL MAN! So don’t
go berserk at this point of your discovery. Rather begin to realize it is
called: MARRIAGE.
Then again, Diabolism
is NOT allowed in a relationship! A relationship should not be FORCED upon someone,
either by meta-physical manifestations, Juju (black magic), and/or witchcraft.
And lastly (lastly for
now, coz we’re still digging deep into the issues of the above couples); ALL
marriage issues ARE AMENDABLE!
Please note...
To be Continued...
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